Control ~ Is control an illusion we create for ourselves? The reality is there are situations in life that we can’t control. There are times in life we have learn to live in the unknown without freaking out. That seems to be were I am hanging out now. I’m drifting in the unknown trying to some way to hold onto to something concrete. But I know it’s all smoke and mirrors. My mind tries to grab on to something when perhaps God is calling me to let go, learn something & grow.
How do we prepare ourselves for what is the reality while still hoping for a miracle? How do we live without worrying about the future? How do we stay in the moment of today and savor each moment with the weight of tomorrow looming heavy? How do we not give into fear of loss and stand in the storm knowing we will have to let go? How do we show up as a grown up mature person for those we love when we want to be like all the others and hide like a child?
How do I do it? Why do I do it someone asked me recently. I do it because for me, there’s no other choice. When I love someone, I show up for them every damn day – even when it’s hard. I’ve learned sometimes courage isn’t a choice but a happy accident that happens along the way and greatest gift we can give another human being is compassion. I remember reading the “Art Of Happiness” by the Dalai Lama over ten years ago. The Dalai Lama teaches the art of finding happiness within yourself is to offer compassion to others. It’s only in recent years I’ve practiced this principle and seen my life change as a result.
I’m not going to lie. I get overwhelmed and feel like I’m drowning in sorrow and anxiety at times. As I try to navigate rough emotional waters in my life right now, I am focusing on taking care of myself(physically, emotionally and spiritually). I am making an intentional effort to keep myself centered. Lately I’ve been channeling my apprehensions into things I can control(somewhat).
When I feel sadness creeping in the middle of a work day, I focus all of my energies on being productive. I take solace that I’m making a meaningful contribution to the Organization, my bosses and also helping myself. Instead of allowing myself to be swallowed whole by my worries and anxieties, I channel those energies into work and create something positive. As I’ve been adjusting to a new reality in my personal life in recent weeks, I’ve also been extremely focused and productive in work. This helps to affect positive change with no drama. It’s good for me personally and professionally.
I’ve also take completely control back over my lifestyle habits. I’ve been very careful with portion control when I eat while still allowing myself a treat or two along the way. I’m using an APP to count Weight Watcher Points Plus, iTrackBites. The app was only $3.99. A lot cheaper than paying for WW and it works. The first couple of days were a bit shocking when I saw my Gluten Free Bagel & 2 Tablespoons of Peanut Butter for Breakfast was a whopping 13 points! Now it’s Green Juice & Eggs for breakfast which is only 5 points. I feel better too.
How do you control the uncontrollable and navigate rough emotional seas? Have you been broken open by life’s sorrows just enough to be compassionate? Have you truly touched the center of heartache in another human being? Have you looked at a sad, heartbroken or sick friend squarely in the eye and said, “I’m here. I’m not going anywhere. Lay it on me. I can take it.” If you’ve never shown up for someone that way, Do it. I did it Christmas Eve morning over coffee with my BFF. It was one of the most beautiful moments of my life. I will cherish that morning forever.
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Life Is Best When Lived Passionately