Well, it’s Day 6 of head pain 😦 It is getting better slowly and I did get a few answers. First, I went to the Chiropractor last night. He said my Upper Cervical Spine was jacked up especially on the right side. The adjustment did bring down the pain level and obviously did free something up but it didn’t solve the problem. I went to the Doctor this morning. She said my ears are completely filed with fluid. She was surprised I could hear. Lol 🙂 She said the right side was worst the left. But, the interesting thing is the left hurts more. It doesn’t appear to be infected so no antibiotics but I did walk out with a prescription for a five day course of steroids to help the ears drain and bring down the inflammation🤕
Here’s the thing… as someone who advocates for using holistic methods to manage health problems, it’s never easy for me to willingly sign up to take pharmaceuticals. My doctor and I had lot of conversations about this over the last few years. She finally has me seeing her point. I see now there are times when you need to take a pharmaceutical. If I wasn’t allergic to NSAIDS and Aspirin, I could have taken Advil and it probably would not have escalated to this point. For now, I am not ready to spend to a week in the hospital to get myself desensitized to Aspirin just so I can take Advil. For now, I am accepting there will be times when I need to take short course of steroids to get inflammation under control but I will not agree to taking them daily. It’s five days. Five days I can handle! My body is otherwise strong so the steroids should not have a great impact to my overall holistic health. I also found out that I’ve lost 50lbs over six years. Although I could easily drop another 20lbs, my doctor joked that it’s mostly in my boobs so she wouldn’t worry about it. Lol 🙂
So, I am starting steroids today. I wanted to take the steroids to eliminate the pain because I am taking my Reikii Master training on Saturday. It’s an all day course. I want to be somewhat pain free Saturday so I can enjoy the course. If all goes as planned, I will be a Reikii Master as of as of 5:00pm Saturday. I will then offer Reikii Sessions as part of Health Coaching business.
So, I had an appointment with Accountant earlier this week for my coaching business. Wow, it was a lot to think about. Basically, he helped me understand how to pay for things out of the business account so I can show the start up costs as a loss. I can also deduct my IIN tuition and Reikii Trainings as start up costs through the LLC. Since my LLC passes through my personal taxes, the losses will lower my tax bracket on my W-2 job. That means I could get a sizable return when I do my taxes for 2017. He said I was smart to form the LLC the same year I paid the tuition:-) Just more proof that you have to follow the signs in life and go with the flow. The signs told me to open the business and now it looks like it was good timing and will be financially advantageous to me.
The accountant also advised me to consider moving to a two bedroom apartment so I can use and claim one room as a home office/yoga/reiki II zone. It’s $3,500 deduction. I am interested in moving to a two bedroom but… I need to balance that against with my safety, personal fulfillment, relationships, happiness and life balance. I currently live in a high rise. As a single woman, I love high rise living. I make a phone call, guys come and fix stuff. It’s awesome 🙂 My cleaning lady is married to one of the handyman so she does an extra special job for me. No one can come to my front door without passing my the Doorman/Guard. I can let folks in the back door with my key to avoid the guard but that’s my prerogative. Given that I’ve had my share of ex-boyfriends and stalkers, I am glad there is a barrier to me. Lol 🙂 I love the building I live in. I’ve made friends. I play Mah-Jong with a group of women. I eat breakfast at a local cafe on weekends with some other folks from my building. Since I live at the beach, living by high ground is important. My parking lot is high ground. My car is safe. My lease is up for renewal at the beginning of the year. My landlord and I haven’t talked about it yet. I talked to the building manager today and asked her to let me know if any two bedrooms open up in the building. But for now, that’s it. I do not want to move out of the building for a two bedroom. So the $3,500 wouldn’t be worth the life balance, safety and peace of mind I’d be giving up in 2018. My situation may be different in 2019. Maybe I’ll be more open to moving out of the building or moving offshore. Maybe I’ll move in with a new boyfriend and start a new life by then. But for now, I want to stay in my current building and continue to enjoy the life I carved out of myself here.
Coaching business update… I take small steps each day towards my goal. With working full time, going to school and managing my life, I need to take the business start up slowly. I am also a planner and a strategist by nature. I like to visualize and think things out before I act. I am not a reactor. Taking the slow approach gives me time to digest and absorb new information and strategize based upon events or signs that I receive while riding the flow of Universal energy. While I can do Life Coaching under the umbrella Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, I am also going to pursue a separate Life Coach Credential when I am done IIN in May 2018. I will also be able to write that off through the business next year.
I also figured out I prefer the 30 minute coaching model. I’ve experimented with 60 and 30 minute sessions. Right now, with my other responsibilities, 30 minute appointments work for me and are easier for me to manage. I am starting to offer a FREE 30 minute discovery session on “What is Holistic Health Coaching” via phone, FaceTime and Skype to new clients. If they sign up, I will set up 30 minute check-ins with them. Our conversations will be more focused and topic driven based upon their needs and/or concerns rather than free form dialogue. I want folks to walk away from every appointment with something meaningful to think about or work on. Keeping to a 30 minute model will protect my energy a bit and keep me balanced in life too. 30 minutes also means I can offer cheaper rates to clients who may be a budget.
I am not interested in coaching folks to be the perfect size or be in perfect health. I am interested in helping folks make better choices for their life and their body. I don’t want clients coming to me and saying “I want to lose 50lbs”. I want them to say “I want to feel better!”. Then we can start looking at their life to find small ways to help them feel better. As they choose to feel better, the necessary changes will happen organically and will be easier for them to handle. My goal is to help my clients live their highest good life – whatever that may look like to them. Some just want to be able to walk around the block and not eat as much sugar. Well, let’s start walking for ten minutes a day and let’s start eating sugary vegetables such as carrots and sweet potatoes to crowd out candy, chocolate and soda but still get a sugar fix. This what I can offer. I been there. I’ve done it. I am living it.
Speaking of coaching, I love having coaches. I am very coachable. My Accountability Partner from school is one of coaches. We are tagging up to coach each other this Sunday. I am also reaching to folks who I think can help me grow or may able to expand my knowledge or awareness. I respect people’s time and business calendars so I only ask folks for 30 minutes chats. I usually only ask for one-off type of appointments unless, of course, we determine we want to meet more often. If I ask someone to give me a coaching session, it’s because I respect them and their knowledge and want to learn from them.
Professionally, I had an opportunity to meet with one of my work mentors who was in town for the day yesterday. I credit a good part of my growth this past year professionally to working for him. We clicked. He never tried to solve my problems. When I went to him with a problem, he didn’t automatically jump in. He told me what to do, what to say, who to talk to and told me me come back to him with the results. He would then give me the next steps. That method taught me how to handle situations and how talk to people. He said to me, “It’s a credit to you that two men who you directly supported have been promoted. Your skills helped both of us look good!” Lol 🙂 He also told me, “You are trying to do the work and fix all of the problems. No wonder you are stressed out. You can only do what you can do but kudos to you for doing such a great job by “acting” as the manager even when you weren’t asked to!” Lol 🙂 Hmm, I guess I was managing:-) I was glad to have my 30 minutes with him 🙂 I have a few invitations for coaching sessions outstanding. I am hoping they can afford me 30 minutes in their hectic schedules I am open to any format phone, FaceTime, Skype or in person. I do value their guidance.
Now, because I was in pain for the last few days, I’ve noticed some fear based thinking creeping into my experience. My guard has been down. I’ve been working extra hard to shut down the negative Nancy who lives in my head. She is a fear based thinker. For example, it seems clear to me that Bluelove is staying in his current job. I think that is wonderful for him and his career. I am happy for him. The role suits him and I would do anything to support him both personally and professionally. Where my fear based thinking enters the conversation is that I do not know what means to our relationship/interactions. I don’t know if that means I will have to let him go. I don’t know if that means he will no longer be a part of my life. It freaks me out. I am praying that everything is working out for the highest good of all concerned but it would make me sad to lose him. It would make me very sad to not have him in my life. Especially because he’s been looking super cute and healthy late. Lol 🙂 Even my mentor commented that Bluelove (he called him by his actual name, lol ) is looking better than he’s looked in years and he is wondering what his secret is:-) I just agreed and said, “You are right. he does look good; he looks healthy!” 😂😂🦋 💙 Secretly, I like to think Bluelove is taking care of himself is because he knows he has a hot girl checking him out and loving him so he takes better care of himself. Lol 🙂 At least, I secretly hope I am part of the reason he looks happier and healthier :-)🦋💙
Well, I need to lay down and give my meds time to work. I plan to work 6am to 2pm tomorrow and then get plenty of rest before my Reiki Master training on Saturday.
What’s on your mind today? How’s life? Are you mentoring or coaching someone? Do you enjoy it as much as I do? 🦋
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